As a loving and dutiful husband there are times when I’ve been difficult. Perhaps a series of expectations have dribbled down the drain. We often struggle with what we have created. The person closest and dearest to us are the first to hear our feelings of discontent. If we drop our story abruptly and unlovingly on our bride’s lap, she may become stressed as well.
So, what am I to do? A problem exists. Relief is needed. Think – It’s you that perceives a problem, you that needs a solution, you that feels pain. Therefor it’s practical to motivate you b with a few small steps. The first step might be to relax the mind and body. Take a few minutes to peacefully meditate. With a clear mind a solution may appear. Some may find a second step of writing about the situation and possible remedies helpful. Others may prefer to visualize the problem as resolved. Give yourself credit for being a level-headed problem solver. Even if a reasonable remedy is not yet discovered, feel good about the control you’ve demonstrated. Next, reflect with gratitude on the life you’re living.
Finally, share your problem and your thoughts respectfully with your mate.
“Be still as a mountain and move like a great river.”
– An old Tai Chi saying.
From a mountain we may learn to feel grounded and rooted. From a great river we may learn to feel the freedom of our movements. From each of these we should become aware of our strengths and body mechanics.
